Often when we start trusting ourselves, and truly listening in on our own needs and desires, it can feel disconcerting - as though we’re lost in the woods with no clear markings on which direction to take.

When we feel like this the default response is to stiffen up and freak out. We fall into thinking:

- We should already be two steps ahead of ourselves.
- We should already know what’s next.
- We should already be back up and running full steam.

And if we're not…we’re failing.

Well, what if this wasn’t the case? What if instead of being lost and failing, you were forging new unchartered territory? Territory that’s more aligned with who you truly are – free from the beliefs of others and stories around who you should be?

What if that feeling of disconcertment was the first sign of a new horizon, full of previously unseen possibilities guiding you closer to yourself? 🧡

#reframingyourthoughts #challengeyourbeliefs #consciousliving #whatifyourblooming #selfdirected #untethered #lifecoach #powerfulquestions #livelifewell ...

I used to put perfectionist as a character strength on my CV when I was at school, and it was something I wore as a badge of honour as I got older. I was proud to be seen as perfect.

But the funny thing was I knew it was an illusion, that there is no such thing as perfect, yet I still aimed for it. It had become an expectation I’d unconsciously set for myself that I had to maintain in everything I did.

When I finally challenged this belief and it's role in my life, I realised I’d attached the word perfect to being the best, and it was causing me so much unnecessary pain…

- down time was filled with things I could do to improve on,
- achievement was brushed off with ‘well of course I should’ve got that’, and,
- activities were assessed on how successful or worthwhile they’d be, over and above simply having fun.

Because here's the thing, when you claim yourself as a perfectionist you become paralysed by the fear of not being good enough, and you end up placing your entire sense of worth on being productive and successful 24/7, and in getting things 'right' all of the time.

As a result you end up hiding in order to feel safe, and this is why people who aim for perfect continually feel dissatisfied.

I wanted to share this with you as you approach the end of the year, because it's typically when you can become stressed and anxious over getting things right, and judging yourself harshly for not meeting expectations - whether it’s in your relationships, your work, your body, or your activities.

👉 I invite you to challenge your relationship with perfectionism and success. How is this driving your behaviour right now?

If you’d like to read more on how to release perfectionism, including a list of journal prompts to explore, jump on over to the blog where you'll find the full article.

With love, Sarah 💕

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2020, what a ride! However amongst all the ‘craziness' it has given me the time to step back and work on things I’ve been putting to the side. One of these was allowing myself to stop and reflect on my business - where it started from, and where it’s growing.

Over the last two years, I’ve had the opportunity to coach so many wonderful people, all of which have helped me understand what brings me joy and where I can specifically use my skills and strengths to best serve. With their support I’ve been squirreling away on re-freshing my website, revising my coaching programmes, and creating new online course offerings - which I can’t wait to show you! 💕

We live in a world where we are inundated with so much information, and it’s easy to get caught up in what everyone else is doing. As a result, we become addicted to consuming and we don’t actually stop to sit with the work and apply it to our own lives.

✨This is where I love to coach.✨

Everything I create comes from the desire to help you step out of that constant cycle of consuming and comparing, and giving you the space and tools to re-connect with who you truly are.

I’ve launched the new site today www.sarahtrass.com – which I can’t wait for you to see, and my online courses will be released in the new year.

I’m so excited to move into this next chapter and to dive deeper into this work with you. So please check it out, and spread the love.

Sarah x

Shout out to Adam @1768degrees for the beautiful refresh, and the amazing @amy_kate_photography for her skills with the camera (although we took these a while ago now, I'm still in love with them 😘)
#refreshed #restandreflect #nextchapter #growing #learning #happyplace #coaching #wellness #consciousliving #lifestyle #designyourlife #livelifewell ...

This is something I constantly remind myself of, so I thought I'd put it up here for you today as well 💕.

It’s often when we’re feeling tired, out of good ideas, or a little flat, that we try and force that extra bit of juice out of the tank. It’s also in these times, that we end up pushing ourselves over the edge. Cue: feeling overwhelmed, stressed, anxious, and self-critical. Which 9 times out of 10 slows you down longer than if you had just given yourself that break in the first place. Right?

Therefore, your reminder this week is this: It is 100% OK to take the pedal off the metal when your mind and body is needing it. You do not need to ask permission or to justify yourself. You’ve done enough. Rest...there is always tomorrow.

Sarah xx

#selfcare #selfresponsible #restandrepair #rechargeyourtank #boundaries #energy #wellbeing #consciousliving #removeexpectations #lifecoach #designyourlife #livelifewell ...

Enough is a word we all struggle with.

- We push ourselves to meet expectations set by someone else.
- We put measuring sticks up against other people to see where we stand in comparison.
- We see others achievements and assume them as our own dreams, without asking why.
- We attach the word ‘success’ to one element of our life (often financial) and hang our whole sense of happiness and worth to it.
...And then we wait for it to work...

But we know it doesn’t work. We know we don’t feel good or satisfied when we do this, because at the end of the day we’re all different - we have different values and desires and different ways of living these. Therefore, what’s enough for you is going to be different to the person next to you, and that’s 100% ok.

So, my invitation for you is to take a second to let this question really land: What is enough for me?

Simply sit with it, allowing the answers to bubble up without any judgement or criticism, and most of all allow yourself to be surprised by what's true for your here - how is it different to what you've been telling yourself?

Sarah xx

#releasingexpectation #settingyourownstandards #curiosity #truths #selfownership #questionfortheday #tryareframe #consciousliving #happiness #lifecoach #livelifewell Photo captured by the gorgeous @amy_kate_photography 😘 ...

Throughout the week we can get so caught up in jumping from one thing to the next, and focusing on all the problems that need ‘fixing’, that we never stop to acknowledge and process all the good things we’ve got going on around us.

Today it was taking a break in the arvo to have a cup of tea in the sun, watching some ducks waddle around, going for a quick dip, and making fish tacos for dinner that I’ve been dreaming of since I woke up!

Where did you find joy today?

#joy #noticingthegood #consciousliving #littlemomentsaddup #happiness #curiosity #wellness #designyourlife #lifecoach #livelifewell ...

In life we all have the knack of distorting situations to mean something else – telling ourselves things that sound reasonable and realistic but only leave you feeling worse off. These are called cognitive distortions (If you’ve been following these already you’ll have seen the previous examples, if not scroll down a bit where you’ll find the full list 💛).

Here’s the third and final example of how we can reframe control fallacies, negative filters, jumping to conclusions, and fairness fallacies. Have a play and let me know how you go! I’m working on jumping to conclusions and practicing sitting in conversations without feeling the need to fix/change/improve other people’s experiences 😍

Enjoy xx

#cognitivedistortions #CBT #switchupyourthinking #reframe #curiosity #consciousliving #mindsettips #wellness #emotionalresilience #lifecoach #livelifewell ...

I came across this saying the other morning and found it so beautifully simple 🙌 When it comes to joy and happiness many of us get caught up in thinking it’s about having these huge, blow your socks off, moments. As a result, we constantly deny ourselves joy because we’re waiting. Waiting for that promotion, the partner, the job, the body because THEN we will be happy.

Joy isn’t a reward, it’s a birthright that already exists, moment to moment in your everyday life - the savouring of a cup of coffee, connecting with a stranger, watching your child play, enjoying a routine, noticing a quality in yourself. It’s these simple experiences, when acknowledged, that add up and create the life you seek.

#happiness #findthejoy #dailychoices #healthylifestyle #consciousliving #selfawarness #emotionalhealth #lifecoach #livelifewell ...

Gentle reminders for the big hearted 💛

#consciousrelationships #releasingexpectations #boundaries #mindset #roleplaying #selfhealing #selfownership #lifecoach #livelifewell ...

The other day Dane and I were sitting with a group of friends discussing the change in family dynamics once you start having your own family, particularly when it comes to traditions such as Christmas and how you spend your time. I noticed every one was struggling in some way with the guilt of changing, and acknowledging the fact we no longer fulfilled the roles our parents had assigned to us as children, or that we created ourselves within the family dynamic.

We all unconsciously create roles and storylines for others to fill, based on our own beliefs, needs, and experiences that then get projected on to the other person - whether it be your children, your partner, your boss etc.. For example: Respectful people behave like _____ Responsibility looks like_____ Being a good child means_____

Yet as we grow and start to experience life for ourselves, we each develop our own set of beliefs, we learn from our own experiences, and we start to define our own needs and the boundaries that honour them. In doing so you become aware of the fact you don’t have to play the role of the mediator, the responsible one, the entertainer, if it's no longer working for you.

When you realise this and start creating your own role within your own storyline, 9 times out of 10 it will be challenged by those around you. Because all of a sudden you’re disrupting their ‘rule book’.

And I’m not going to lie, it feels uncomfortable, but trust me when I say it’s ok. It’s ok to outgrow versions of yourself that no longer work for you, to challenge outdated versions that no longer align with what you’re needing, and to lean into the role you’re currently defining for yourself.

By trying to fit into outdated versions of ourselves purely to make others happy, we not only betray ourselves, but we deny others the opportunity to grow as well – to challenge their own rule books, to come face-face with their own stories and consider how it could play out differently.

So if this is you, and you're going through a tough time right now, keep believing in your re-write. Love Sarah xx

#consciousrelationships #rewriteyourstories #outdatedroles #selfownership #livelifewell ...

Feeling appreciated is something we all need, and knowing that we’re loved and accepted by those around is key to our ability to thrive. Yet when we start to place more emphasis on receiving external validation and praise, over our own sense of worth, it can hold us back from being 100% true to ourselves and going after the things that really bring us joy.

So, here’s a gentle reminder that it’s ok to untether from praise and trust in your innate worth. Print it out, save it as your screen saver, and look at it anytime you feel that doubt creep in.

#yourealreadyenough #selfworth #awareness #dailyreminders #emotionalwellness #consciousliving #selfhealing #lifecoach #livelifewell ...