Hello lovely people, and welcome to 2019!
(Gosh isn’t that crazy…2019. I remember watching the Island when I was younger and thinking 2019 sounded completely futuristic – ‘would we have flying cars by then?’ Yet here we are, and as far as I know there’s no flying cars in production or cloning of the world’s most elite. Phew!)
The start of a new year is typically when we have some down time to reflect on what we want to achieve, and what it is we want for our life moving forward. What I notice is that many of us focus all our attention on ‘what’ we want, without asking ourselves ‘who’ it is that we are striving to become – and I believe this is one of the main reasons people struggle to stick to their goals and start playing bigger in life.
Sense of identity is the most powerful force in the human personality – it encompasses our feelings, thoughts, values, and beliefs around what we are capable of achieving, and ultimately how we act.
Most of us have trapped ourselves in an old identity,
that no longer serves who we are today.
From a young age, there is a constant stream of information telling you how to behave, how to look, what to strive for, and the role you play in life. Over time you become coloured by these external expectations and perceptions, and start believing that they are associated to your identity. As a result, you box yourself in, and when faced with new opportunities or challenges you stop pushing yourself, or worse you start to sabotage your growth, by saying ‘that’s not who I am’.
So, I invite you to peel back all those layers and start connecting in with who you truly are, and more importantly who you want to become in 2019. It starts by being more intentional about how you show up and interact with yourself and others. Grab a pen, and a piece of paper, and ask yourself the following:
- How would you describe yourself in different situations last year? e.g. at work, within your relationships, in social situations, with strangers. Is this who you truly want to be moving forward?
- How would your future, more aligned self, look, feel, and behave differently in these situations?
- If you were to describe in 3 words, who you are at your best moving forward, what would those words be?
- How can you remind yourself of these 3 words every single day?
Remember, it’s not what we get in life that makes us happy, it’s who we become. By taking the time to uncover who you truly are, it not only helps you succeed in creating lasting change, but it ensures you lead a more fulfilling and authentic life.
Have a fabulous week,