Last month I really got into watching Popstars – first of all I’m so proud of the unbelievable talent we have in this country, and second of all I started to notice a pattern popping up in the people who weren’t making it to the next round.
When being interviewed these people would express their desire to be in the music industry, that it was all they wanted, and that they would do anything to bring that dream into reality.
Watching each of them it was clear they all had a specific strength that would serve them well in the industry – whether it be that they were amazing song writers, musicians, or producers, yet they focused solely on their singing, believing it was the only way they could make it.
It was obvious from the outside that they could use their other strengths to achieve their dream, but their narrow focus on getting there purely as a singer was getting in the way.
In life there’s more than one way to skin a cat, yet when you get so caught up in doing something a specific way and holding on to the idea that it should work out exactly as you think it should, you end up closing yourself off to the wider range of opportunities that are available to you.
As a result, you end up spending more energy, time, and resources on forcing outcomes, and it becomes exhausting.
So, if you’re finding yourself bumping up against obstacles all the time on your journey to achieving something, instead of pushing, and pushing for the outcome to show up how you’re wanting it to, take a step back and release the expectation and control over the situation.
- What other opportunities are presenting themselves to you in this moment that you’ve been ignoring?
- How can you widen your parameters to achieve your goal – what could this look like?
- What might be possible if you released the idea that you know exactly how things are meant to go?
As always have a wonderful rest of the day,
PS here’s a fun fact for you: the first use of the phrase ‘there’s more than one way to skin a cat’ dates back to 1854, in the work ’Way down East; or, Portraitures of Yankee Life’ by Seba Smith, and it’s origins date back to the 1830’s with a similar phrase, which was ‘there are more ways to kill a cat than choking it with cream’.