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Is it love or are you just being compliant?

 

“Sometimes loving someone involves affirming your separateness, not your sameness”.

 

I love this quote by Bethany Webster, as it speaks to one of the biggest obstacles I see when it comes to setting boundaries – particularly when it comes to loved ones.

People often say to me they’re scared of causing conflict, coming across mean and selfish, or pushing people away, by putting in place some boundaries.

 

When I hear this I know they’re falling into old programming that tells them that compliance = love and acceptance.

This isn’t true.

You don’t have to agree with someone in order for them to love you, and vice versa. A healthy relationship acknowledges and honours your separateness, and provides safety for one another by allowing you to have both healthy boundaries AND acceptance.

 

Thoughts to ponder:

  1. Where in your life are you mistaking compliance with love? 
  2. Would you be willing to hold space for others to disagree with you whilst staying open and loving?

 

With love, 

Sarah xx 

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There is no finish line to cross, no peak to put your flag on, no A+ to strive for in life - all that`s required is that you show up for yourself and consistently choose what aligns with what you value and deem most important, and know that this journey looks and feels different for everyone.

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This practice activates your social engagement system, which is key in bringing a sense of compassion and connection within your body, and aids in shifting more of those `heavy` emotions that can get stuck.

Growing up we might not have been taught how to self-soothe and regulate when experiencing strong emotions, or how to SHOW our body that it’s ok to relax. This somatic practice is a wonderful place to start 💛

Use gentle pressure and stay with each position as long as you feel is needed, or at least for 5 cycles of breath. When you’re ready to bring the practice to a close, allow yourself to sit with any sensations and shifts that arise before moving on - this helps you nervous system integrate and benefit from the experience.

With love,
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My coaching programmes hold the space for you to show up exactly as you are, and to have the freedom to explore and unpack all facets of your life....

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At the end of the journey, my biggest desire is that you will feel more at home with who you are and what you want from your life, as well as creating a tool box of your own, filled with different techniques and strategies that support you in having a healthy mind and body, and a thriving daily life.

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What’s going on internally in these moments, is that you’ve shifted into the seat of your activated sympathetic nervous system, and your body is focused on taking action to get you out of perceived danger. Even if it’s well passed.
 
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Explore how this feels for you and let me know what worked well.
 
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This feeling is completely normal, and is a way your nervous system kicks into gear to conserve energy and keep you ‘safe’.

Here I share what’s going on in your nervous system when you feel this way, and some practices that can support you in moments where you feel yourself shutting down.

👉 Note: With each practice focus on even breaths in and out, and repeat at least 5 times or until you feel yourself drop into your body and your surroundings.

Have a play and let me know how they go for you!

👉Also if you’re feeling called to learn more about your nervous system, and how Polyvagal and Somatic Therapy can support you – I’d love to chat

Take good care of yourself this weekend,
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Hello lovely and welcome to 2023. Over the holiday break whilst reflecting on what it is you want for your year, what you want to focus on, and what changes you want to bring into your day to day life…you may have considered working with a Life Coach and wondered what it`s all about.

If you’re ready to take yourself on this year and to invest in your personal growth, find out more about my 1:1 coaching programmes, or book in for your free 30-minute consultation over at sarahtrass.com.

Sarah x

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